情商測試和培訓機構TalentSmart的創(chuàng)始人特拉維·布拉德伯里列出了一些具備高情商的明顯特征
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擁有豐富的情感詞匯
People with high EQs master their emotions because they understand them, and they use an extensive vocabulary of feelings to do so. While many people might describe themselves as simply feeling 'bad,' emotionally intelligent people can pinpoint whether they feel 'irritable,' 'frustrated,' 'downtrodden,' or 'anxious.'
高情商的人之所以可以掌控自身的情緒是因為他們能理解這些情緒，并可以用豐富的情感詞匯來描述它們。當許多人僅僅用簡單的詞匯例如“不好”來描述自身的情緒時，高情商的人能夠指出他們所感覺到的是“急躁”，“沮喪”，“壓抑”還是“不安”。
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對他人感到好奇
It doesn't matter if they're introverted or extroverted, emotionally intelligent people are curious about everyone around them. This curiosity is the product of empathy, one of the most significant gateways to a high EQ.
無論是內向型還是外向型的人，高情商者都會對身邊的人感到好奇。這種好奇是源于同理心，是高情商的重要表現(xiàn)。
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擁抱改變
Emotionally intelligent people are flexible and are constantly adapting. They know that fear of change is paralyzing and a major threat to their success and happiness.
高情商的人是靈活多變并能隨機應變的。他們知道害怕改變會麻痹他們并極大地威脅他們的成功與幸福。
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不易動怒
If you have a firm grasp of whom you are, it's difficult for someone to say or do something that gets your goat. Emotionally intelligent people are self-confident and open-minded, which creates a pretty thick skin.
如果你對自己有充分的了解，他人的言語與舉動是很難讓你動怒的。高情商的人都很自信并且心胸開闊，所以臉皮也就不會那么薄。
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懂得如何拒絕
Saying no is indeed a major self-control challenge for many people. When it's time to say no, emotionally intelligent people avoid phrases such as 'I don’t think I can' or 'I'm not certain.' Saying no to a new commitment honors your existing commitments and gives you the opportunity to successfully fulfill them.
對于許多人來說，說“不”的確是一項對自控力的挑戰(zhàn)。當該說“不”的時候，高情商的人會避免使用“我覺得我不行”或“我不確定”等這類的短語。對新的承諾說“不”會讓你遵守現(xiàn)有的承諾，并讓你有機會成功履行承諾。
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不計較錯誤
Emotionally intelligent people distance themselves from their mistakes, but do so without forgetting them.
高情商的人會和犯過的錯誤保持距離，但也不會遺忘它們。
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付出且不求回報
When someone gives you something spontaneously, without expecting anything in return, this leaves a powerful impression.
當某人主動送你東西，并不求回報時，會給你留下深刻印象。
Emotionally intelligent people build strong relationships because they are constantly thinking about others.
高情商的人會與他人建立良好的人際關系，因為他們隨時隨地都在為他人著想。
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不記仇
The negative emotions that come with holding onto a grudge are actually a stress response. When the threat is imminent, this reaction is essential to your survival, but when the threat is ancient history, holding onto that stress wreaks havoc on your body and can have devastating health consequences over time.
帶有仇恨的負面情緒實際上是一種壓力反應。當威脅即將來臨的時候，這種反應對你的生存至關重要。但當威脅已經遠離的時候，你仍背負壓力的話會傷害身體，長此以往，對身體健康也會造成損害。
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中和消極人群
Dealing with difficult people is frustrating and exhausting for most. High EQ individuals control their interactions with toxic people by keeping their feelings in check.
與難相處的人打交道會令大多數(shù)人感到沮喪和疲憊。但高情商的人在和消極人群的交流過程中能克制自己的情緒。
They identify their own emotions and don't allow anger or frustration to fuel the chaos. They also consider the difficult person's standpoint and are able to find solutions and common ground.
高情商的人能清楚辨別自己的情緒，避免發(fā)怒和沮喪以免火上澆油。同時他們也能考慮難相處的人的立場并能夠找出雙方的共同話題和相處之道。
Even when things completely derail, emotionally intelligent people are able to take the toxic person with a grain of salt to avoid letting him or her bring them down.
甚至在事態(tài)已完全失控時，高情商的人對消極人群的觀點也會持保留態(tài)度，不會讓他或她影響自己的心態(tài)。
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不苛求完美
Emotionally intelligent people won't set perfection as their target because they know that it doesn't exist. Human beings, by our very nature, are fallible.
高情商的人不會把完美當成自己追逐的目標，因為他們知道完美是不存在的。犯錯是人類的本性。
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學會裝死，掉線
Taking regular time off the grid is a sign of a high EQ because it helps you to keep your stress under control and to live in the moment. When you make yourself available to your work 24/7, you expose yourself to a constant barrage of stressors.
高情商的又一表現(xiàn)就是學會定期斷開連接，因為這將有助于你控制壓力并活在當下。如果你每周七天、每天24小時隨時準備迎接工作，你將讓自己遭受壓力的持續(xù)轟炸。
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不讓任何人影響到你的好心情
When your sense of pleasure and satisfaction are derived from the opinions of other people, you are no longer the master of your own happiness. When emotionally intelligent people feel good about something that they've done, they won't let anyone's opinions or snide remarks take that away from them.
當你的快樂和滿足感源自他人對你的評價時，你就不再是能掌控自身幸福的主人了。高情商的人對自己所做的事感覺良好，不會輕易受他人觀點或尖刻評論的影響。
While it's impossible to turn off your reactions to what others think of you, you don't have to compare yourself to others, and you can always take people's opinions with a grain of salt.
雖然你不可能對他人的評價充耳不聞，但是你不必拿自己和其他人作比較，而且你可以對他人的觀點持保留態(tài)度。
That way, no matter what other people are thinking or doing, your self-worth comes from within.
這樣的話，無論別人想什么或做什么，都無所謂，因為你的自我價值感源于內心。
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