幽默需要用到孩子的語(yǔ)言能力等認(rèn)知能力，所以讓孩子好好學(xué)習(xí)語(yǔ)文，了解語(yǔ)言的博大精深后，運(yùn)用起幽默技能來(lái)也會(huì)更加高級(jí)和迷人。一個(gè)幽默的人，還需要發(fā)散思維、靈活性以及對(duì)給出的刺激回應(yīng)多種新奇的反饋。但是，具體來(lái)看， 一些看起來(lái)能讓自己變得幽默的技巧，實(shí)際上是無(wú)根之水，一個(gè)擁有好的幽默感的人，從根本上說(shuō)，都有著健康積極的人格，否則幽默也只能變成嘲諷型或者自貶型的無(wú)益幽默。
《馬男波杰克》中波杰克的不健康的幽默方式與波杰克的原生家庭有很大的關(guān)系，父母關(guān)系不好、對(duì)孩子缺少應(yīng)有的關(guān)懷和愛(ài)、并不尊重孩子的自尊和獨(dú)立，等等等等。這樣的家庭方式是滋生不健康幽默方式的溫床。即使這樣的孩子很幽默，但是他的幽默也會(huì)讓人覺(jué)得十分不舒服。
所以如果想讓自己的寶貝變成一個(gè)具有幽默感的人，最根本的是給孩子創(chuàng)造一個(gè)良好的環(huán)境，讓孩子的人格健康發(fā)展。
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