9 Relationship Mistakes that Women Make
婚姻關(guān)系中女性常犯的9個錯誤

A relationship is as it’s people are, imperfect, flawed, but mostly unique
人與人之間的關(guān)系就像個體本身一樣，不完美，有缺陷，但卻是獨一無二的。

Every relationship is unique. Sometimes women do things, often without realizing it, that can impair a relationship. Here are a few things to keep in mind.
每種關(guān)系都是獨一無二的。有時候女人會做一些損害一段關(guān)系的事,自己卻往往意識不到。這里有幾件需要牢記于心的注意事項：

Stop Undervaluing Yourself
不要低估自己

It’s very easy to be vulnerable and insecure in today’s world. You are constantly required to prove yourself and face success and failure almost successively. It is therefore easy to diminish one’s self esteem and self worth. Try not to undervalue yourself. Know that you are worth everything in the world and that everything you get, you deserve.
在當(dāng)今世界，人們很容易脆弱且缺乏安全感。你需要不斷地證明自己，還要不斷面對成功與失敗。因此，削弱一個人的自尊和自我價值就變得極其容易。盡量不要低估自己。要知道，你值得擁有世上的一切，你也值得擁有現(xiàn)在所得到的一切。

Stop Relying Completely On Your Partner
不要完全依賴你的伴侶

To lean on someone for support isn’t bad, however to depend on someone to the extent that they become a crutch is a very unhealthy idea that then makes your self-worth, your emotional stability and your happiness dependent on something you have no control over. Do rely on your partner for support, not for neediness .
依賴別人的支持并不是件壞事。然而非常依賴某人，以至于他成了你離不開的拐杖，卻是十分不好的做法，這些讓你的自我價值，情緒以及你的快樂依靠某種你完全無法控制的東西上。要適當(dāng)依賴你伴侶的支持，而不是依賴的無法自拔。

Stop Neglecting Communication
不要忽略交流

Sometimes it’s hard to understand someone. This is especially true if you’re upset, angry, or sad so it’s easier to just drop the topic of conversation. However it is always a good idea to talk, ask, communicate in a relationship especially if you feel like your cannot understand your partner’s need or his way of communicating. Doing so will strengthen your relationship and give both of you a better idea of each other.
有的時候理解他人確實不易。尤其是你在不安，憤怒或悲傷時，更容易停止對話，相對無言。然而，如果你感覺無法理解對方的需求或是無法理解對方說話的方式，那就多交談，詢問。交流可是個不錯的主意哦。這樣做會鞏固你們之間的關(guān)系，讓你倆更加了解對方。

Stop Trying to Change Him
不要試著改變他

Men and women in our generation and that preceding ours, are quite different in the way they think, act, and behave. Not everyone , of course, but a lot of them. There will be things about your partner that you’ll like and there will be some you don’t. You would’ve probably preferred it if he didn’t have those traits, however, now that he does, take them with a pinch of salt and try to get used to them. Don’t try to change him to your liking, instead focus more on what you like and less on what you don’t!
我們這一代以及前幾代的男人女人們，他們的思維，行為，表現(xiàn)都大相徑庭。當(dāng)然，并不是每個人都這樣，只是其中的一部分。你的伴侶身上有你喜歡的地方，也有你討厭的地方。也許你希望他沒有這些讓你討厭的特質(zhì)。但是，既然他確實有，那就接受它們，盡量去適應(yīng)它們。不要根據(jù)自己的喜好企圖改變他，而要多關(guān)注你喜歡的，不去關(guān)注不喜歡的東西。

Stop Denying What He Does for You
不要否定他為你做的

Some men are familiar with women’s ideas of romantic. However, most men, though absolutely loving, seldom keep up with a woman’s definition of romantic. Keep in mind that just because he doesn’t know the things you didn’t tell him, doesn’t make him uncaring. If there is something you want him to do, just tell him straight up. It’ll make your life easier and his too!
有些男人比較熟悉女人們浪漫的想法。然而，大多數(shù)男人，即使是在熱戀中，也很少有人的思維能跟上女人們對浪漫的定義。請記住，這只是因為他不懂你沒告訴過他的東西，不是因為他不在乎你。如果你有想要他做的事，請直接告訴他。這會使你倆都過得輕松。

Stop Being Too Picky Over Things You Can’t Control
不要對你無法控制的事務(wù)過于挑剔

Memories are created by those who don’t fret the little details. Seldom do things in life go just the way you want them to. Getting upset when plans are changed is very normal, however to brood over those changes or throw tantrums or have constant snide remarks can ruin a memory in progress and spoil yours and your partner’s mood. Unless the change in plans is something you absolutely cannot accept and adversely affects your health or your safety, try to not sweat the details and instead enjoy the time with what can now be a surprise element!
回憶屬于那些不被細(xì)小事務(wù)煩惱的人們。生命中很少有事情會完全照著你所希望的方式來走。由于計劃變更而變得焦慮不安是很正常的。然而過多關(guān)注這些改變，大發(fā)脾氣或是不斷地冷嘲熱諷可以摧毀當(dāng)下的一段記憶，破壞你和同伴的情緒。除非這種計劃上的改變是你絕對無法接受的，或是嚴(yán)重影響到你的健康和安危時，試著不要糾結(jié)于細(xì)節(jié)，而要享受當(dāng)下一切驚喜的東西。

Stop Trying to Tie Him Down
不要束縛他

As a way of ensuring security within the relationship, often some women tend to demand long term commitments. There is of course nothing wrong with wanting a secure lasting relationship, however you must bear in mind that by tying him down, you too will be tied down to a man. We all change and evolve as individuals and though the notion of growing old with someone or of marrying your high school sweetheart may seen enticing, it isn’t for everyone. So give yourself time and also him. To strengthen your relationship and eliminate the sense of insecurity, talk to your partner and together figure out a way to make you feel more secure.
有些女人為了確保戀愛關(guān)系不出意外，往往要求對方做出長期的承諾。當(dāng)然，想要一個安全持久的關(guān)系無可厚非，但是，你必須牢記，他被你捆綁后，其實你同時也被他束縛了。我們都在不斷發(fā)展和變化中。盡管和某人白頭到老或和高中戀人結(jié)婚會令人羨慕不已，但并不是每個人都如此。所以請給自己和對方時間，鞏固你們之間的關(guān)系，消除不安全感的顧慮，和他交流，想出讓你們都覺得較安全的方法。

Stop Cheating
不要欺騙

There are no restrictions on one’s thoughts and there shouldn’t be. To think freely is a basic right that we enjoy. However to act upon your thoughts is a very different story. Relationships go through difficult phases and it’s during those phases that we tend to be susceptible, a little insecure and sometimes unhappy. If that is the case, talk to your partner. In case you want something different that your current relationship cannot give you, then have courage and break it off. If not, then do not break the trust you and partner share, for a moment’s weakness or on an impulse. It’s absolutely imperative that you treat your partner the way you want your partner to treat you. So be loyal.
思想是沒有約束限制的，其實也不應(yīng)該有。自由思考是我們應(yīng)享受的基本權(quán)利。然而想是一回事，做又是另外一回事了。人際關(guān)系會經(jīng)歷困難的階段，到了那個階段，我們往往敏感，有一點點不安全感，有時還會不開心。如果是這樣的話，和對方談?wù)劙?。如果你想要一些不同的東西，你們目前的關(guān)系卻給不了你，那么鼓起勇氣把這段關(guān)系結(jié)束。如果沒有勇氣，那么不要因為這片刻的軟弱和沖動打破你們之間建立起來的信任。你希望伴侶能以你對待他的方式來對待你，這是絕對必要的。所以，一定要忠誠。

Stop Making His Decisions
不要幫他下決定

We all like to have a certain degree of say in our partner’s choices and decisions. It makes one feel special and important, but many times we can overdo. Remember how it feels when someone interferes with your decision making? Exactly. Don’t make his decisions for him.
我們都喜歡在對方做選擇和決定時享有一定的話語權(quán)。這讓人感到自己特別重要，但是很多時候，我們做過頭了。當(dāng)有人干擾你的決定時，你還記得那種感受嗎？你肯定記得。所以請不要再幫別人做決定了。