Moderator (Abhijeet): Okay, Sadhguru ji, this is very common in my college and it is true about me and also my friends. So I am in love with a girl and...
主持人（Abhijeet）：薩古魯，這在我們校園里很普遍，包括我和我的朋友也是如此。我愛一個女孩……
Sadhguru: Ah! (Laughter)
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：?。。ㄐβ暎?/span>
Moderator (Abhijeet): And what happens is that I don’t have the courage to talk to her and this is like a self-doubt that I have. I think that I don’t deserve her. So what to do on this regards? (Laughs/Laughter)
主持人（Abhijeet）：問題是我沒有勇氣去跟她說話，有點自我懷疑，我覺得自己配不上她，所以我該怎么辦呢？
Sadhguru: You are in love with a girl or you’ve fallen in love with a girl?
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：你愛著一個女孩，還是你墜入了愛河？
Moderator (Abhijeet): Actually, I’ve fall in love.
主持人（Abhijeet）：其實是我墜入愛河了。
Sadhguru: Ok. This happened, before he became a drunk, he was at the Shillong University, Shankaran Pillai. And he was doing his PhD. So one day, he went to his mentor professor and said, “Sir, I need your help on something very important.”
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：好的。曾經(jīng)，在Shankaran Pillai成為一個酒鬼前，他就讀于Shillong大學，他在攻讀博士。有一天，他去導師那里說，“先生，有一件非常重要的事，我需要你的幫忙?！?/span>
So the professor said, “Yes, that’s why I am here, please tell me.”
導師說：“當然，我在這里就是為了這個，請說吧?！?/span>
Then he named the college beauty and he said, “Sir,I am completely in love with her, I need your help on this.”
然后他說了?；ǖ拿郑缓笳f：“先生，我徹底地愛上了她，我需要你的幫忙。”
“What do you mean, you need my help? I am not here to help you on those kind of matters, I am here for academic purposes.”
“你是什么意思，你需要我的幫忙？我不是來幫你那種忙的，我是來搞學術(shù)的?！?/span>
He said, “No sir, I am really fifty percent successful. You just need to help me with the other fifty percent.”
他說，“不是啊，先生，我已經(jīng)成功了50%。你只需要幫我另外的50%?！?/span>
He asked, “What is fifty percent success anyway?”
導師問，“成功了50%指的是什么？”
He said, “I am completely in love with her and she doesn’t know, the other fifty percent you must help me.”
他說，“我徹徹底底地愛上了她，但是她不知道，另外的50%你一定要幫我?！?/span>
So, just enjoy the love affair because now it’s totally in your control. If you also bring her into the picture, now she will take charge of it. And, I am not saying you should not fall in love with somebody, but don’t be in a rush to live. At this stage in your life, see how to build yourself up into a worthwhile life, then things will come to you in a certain way.
所以，盡管享受這愛戀吧，因為現(xiàn)在它完全在你控制之中。如果你把她也帶進來，那就都在她的掌控之中了。我不是說你不該墜入愛河，但不要過于著急生活。在你生命中的這個階段，看看怎樣把自己構(gòu)建成一個有價值的生命，然后事情就會以某種方式到來。
If you rush into life too early, then, you know, other aspects of growth will get stunted. Because you got emotionally entangled, now immediately the girl says, “I am going to come with you tomorrow morning.” Then immediately, you have to find some job, you have not completed your engineering, you will find one auto-rickshaw to drive. Arey, all these things will happen. Love does all these things to you. So you are having a great love affair, just enjoy it, don’t tell her.
如果你過早地開始為生計奔波，那么，你知道，成長的其它層面就會受到阻礙，因為你受情感的糾葛。現(xiàn)在那個女孩說：“我明早就跟你一起走?！比缓篑R上，你就不得不去找份工作，你還沒有完成你的工程專業(yè)，你會去做三輪車師傅。所有這些事情都會發(fā)生，愛會讓你變成這樣。你正享有一段很棒的愛戀，就好好享受它吧，不要告訴她。
Moderator (Ria): Sadhguru, I think he also kind of wanted to know about self-doubt that he has, although the context was that, that he’s primarily asking about self-doubt.
主持人（Ria）：薩古魯，我想他也想知道，關(guān)于他的自我懷疑。雖然問題的背景是關(guān)于戀愛，他主要是想問自我懷疑。
Sadhguru: See this is not self-doubt, the doubt is about her. How she will respond - that is the doubt. Somewhere when it comes to yourself, the question of whether I am good enough for something, not good enough for something - you should not worry about that. You must just see every day how you can be a better human being than the way you are right now. And then the world, the way it responds, tells you whether you are good enough or not. It’s not for you to think.
Sadhguru（薩古魯）：看清楚，這不是自我懷疑，而是對她的懷疑，她會怎么回應——這才是懷疑所在。關(guān)于你自己，你懷疑自己是否配得上這個或那個，你不應該擔心這些。你只要看，每天怎樣才能成為比現(xiàn)在的自己更好的人，那么這個世界會以它的方式來回應，告訴你是否足夠好，這不用你去想。
See this is why there’s an examination at the end of the year. Why? Because you may think you are a great engineer, but the examination results tell you poo . So this also is like that, you may think I am a hero, but well the girl, she has her opinions. So instead of that, see how to make yourself better, in how many ways, not just the way you look. Because your looks will be ignored after sometime. You have to make yourself better.
這就是為什么到年終會有一個考試，為什么呢？因為你可能認為你是一個很棒的工程師，但是考試的結(jié)果告訴你不是。所以這個也像那樣，你可能認為自己是一個英雄，可是那個女孩，她有她自己的觀點。所以與其那樣，不如看看如何讓自己變得更好，在很多層面上，不只是你的外表。因為你的外表過一段時間后會被忽略，你必須讓自己變得更好。
How to make yourself better? At least you are trying to make yourself into a good engineer, that’s a good idea. Another thing is well, just see - better means what? What is it one thing that always draws people? What is it that one thing that makes a person look wonderful is, it is not the shape of your nose or the point of your chin or your hairstyle or something - a joyful face is always a beautiful face, isn't it so? Your nose can be like this, it doesn’t matter. Joyful face is always a beautiful face. Do that one thing, maybe she will fall in love with you. Just rise and shine. If you rise and shine, everybody will look in that direction, isn't it? Learn to sing, hmm. Sing a song. We can train you if you want. Just one song that may make her fall in love.
如何讓自己變得更好？至少你在努力讓自己成為一個好的工程師，這是個不錯的主意。另外，要明白——更好代表什么？是什么一直最能吸引人呢？是什么讓一個人看起來很美妙？不是你鼻子的形狀，或者你的尖下巴，或者你的發(fā)型，或者其它什么——一張快樂的臉總是一張美麗的臉，是不是這樣？你的鼻子可能像這樣，但沒關(guān)系。一張快樂的臉才永遠是美麗的，就做那一件事，也許她會愛上你。閃耀、發(fā)光起來吧，如果你閃耀著光芒，每個人都會為之注目，是不是？學會唱歌，嗯......唱一首歌。如果你想，我們可以教你，一首能讓她墜入愛河的歌。
